Comments on: I am a Horrible Mother

By: Jen

Jen — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 00:41:12 +0000

VetTech, I bet you are fun to work with. The manamana song is a great ice breaker, who doesn’t know it? It makes people smile and the monster part is the best.

Melyssa (aka not Kathy), we should all be patting ourselves on the back and squash the negativity whenever it creeps up. But I know that is a hard thing to do. I wonder why that is? It seems to me that somewhere along the way we learned that if we are suffering or struggling it is acceptable. Success is still something people apologize for. The truly bad parents don’t have a clue that they are doing a poor job and the good ones are so busy beating themselves up they can’t see that they are doing a pretty good one.

LaShan, Really, you ate sugar and mustard sandwiches? That’s something my son would try and probably love. He eats cheese dipped in chocolate sauce. I want to puke just looking at him eating it. I have to admit that in high school I ate a Tab and melba toast for breakfast. Not because I liked it but because it was the diet that was going around. It worked however, probably because melba toast is nasty and you don’t really eat much of it.

Pricilla, Caramel corn for breakfast doesn’t sound that bad, especially for a goat who probably eats some really weird stuff for breakfast. Dinner in front of the tv was always a treat, of course it meant something either horrible or important had happened. I remember eating in front of the tv when Nixon resigned, when the astronauts landed on the moon and for about a week after 9/11.

By: Pricilla

Pricilla — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 00:28:27 +0000

Sometimes I have caramel corn for breakfast.

Now I can’t get the mananana song out of my head.

Hey, if she’s happy that’s what counts. We had the all eat together put the good foot forward farce and I would have rather had a sober mother and dinner in front of the TV.

By: LaShan Coker

LaShan Coker — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 03:22:00 +0000

Hi Jen… I used to have chocolate chip cookies and Coke for breakfast… not every day… but often enough… and my favorite sandwich was sugar and mustard…lol… I survived it and your kids will survive the cupcakes. Nothing wrong with sleeping in t-shirts either… my older kids did it and well… they are a bit warped… but not too bad…heehehe. Your a great Mom… we all do things our own way and as long as your kids are safe,happy and loved it all works out just fine. Besides… who couldn’t do a better job with a nanny and a housekeeper???… it sure must be nice!… I’ll never know!

Love Manamana!

A Lil Enchanted,
~LaShan~

By: mrsblogalot

mrsblogalot — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 22:30:56 +0000

We are all so hard on ourselves aren’t we?

One of the old sayings from my waiting tables days that I’ll never forget is … “you’re only in the weeds if you care”

Caring is a good thing. It’s the main thing.

I grade myself (low) everyday like I am taking a self-imposed mandatory parent test. I have to make a huge effort to put away the red pen most days and hope for a great makeup exam the next day.

Awesome post Jen…as always!

Melyssa (a.k.a. not Kathy)

By: VetTech

VetTech — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 19:35:19 +0000

Manah Manah has been stuck in my head since I was a kid, even know when work is annoying i will sing it to myself.

By: Jen

Jen — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 16:45:07 +0000

Margo, “and she sure looks like a better mother than the rest of us – but you still have to squint” I love that! I think you are right. Appearances can be deceiving. I knew kids who came from families that really looked like the had it all together and then you peek behind the curtains and find drug abuse, eating disorders, teenage pregnancies and a whole slew of other things. On the other hand I have known kids who grew up with a single mom, never saw their dad, worked from an early age because there just wasn’t enough money to go around and still managed to get through an Ivy League school with honors and then go on to have a very successful life. I have yet to meet anyone successful or unsuccessful who blamed or credited that success with eating cupcakes for breakfast.

By: Margo

Margo — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 16:09:22 +0000

I think you sound like a mother who has her priorities straight. I’ve taken slacker to a whole new level myself in many ways, but in others I think we parents who know and appreciate the versatility of the extra large tee shirt and cupcakes for breakfast have our finger closer to the pulse of what a pain it is to grow up these days. And most breakfast food is crap anyway. And having help does make a big difference. (not that I’d know directly, except there’s one mother in my hood with a nanny, a housekeeper, and lots of extended family in my neighborhood – and she sure looks like a better mother than the rest of us – but you still have to squint And your grandmother sounds awesome. Cheers!

By: Jen

Jen — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 14:34:02 +0000

Sterndal, Thanks, I’ll have to take a look at your site.

Nanodance, It sounds like a perfectly acceptable rule to me, one I might have to adopt.

Mike, I did not give them penis dogs for breakfast. My 16 yr old took all of them right after the party and shared them with his friends. The laughed and giggled the whole time. Luckily their parents are all pretty cool.
I just sent your book, I hope you like it. Thanks for purchasing it. And don’t forget the free Adgitize trial and the free advertising on my site.

By: MikeWJ at TooManyMornings

MikeWJ at TooManyMornings — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 06:59:03 +0000

You gave your kids titty cupcakes for breakfast? OK. Well, at least you didn’t give them your leftover penis dogs and dildos, right? Please tell me you didn’t. Oh, dear God, surely you didn’t.

P.S. — I bought your e-book. I can’t wait to get rich. Or richer.

By: nanodance

nanodance — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 04:52:43 +0000

You’re not alone in this not living up to your ideal of a mother thing. I don’t know how it happened but cooking is like a special occasion around here and I have a rule- wrinkled, ok to wear, stained- mostly ok to wear, wrinkled and stained- no good.